Thursday, July 30, 2009

What to do if your child get into a fight?

Blame the teacher!
Blame your child.
No, no..., how about go find the kid who hit your child and hit him back!
Hmm... (change to new school?)

As a parent, this is what you should do:
  1. Be cool and get the story right. You know your kid by now, so you can gauge how much truth you can extract from him or her;
  2. Talk to class teacher;
  3. Remember that we're trying to educate our child to either stand up and be courage to protect his right, say the truth, and learn to communicate better. The bruise and bump are part of growing up.
As a class teacher, this is what you should do:
  1. Act cool and get the story right from all sources;
  2. If parent talked to you about the incident, listen the parents' side of the story;
  3. Interview the other party and the 'perpetrator' . Listen, listen and listen.
  4. The protocol we should use is "Present Moment", meaning no prejudgment based on previous incident that may took place involving the same kid. We are neutral.
  5. Use reflective language and sort things through.

What is Reflective Language? If you want to know, talk to class teacher...or if you need clarification, come and discuss with me.

Kids, they just want their opinion heard. "What and how" is always something need a proper coaching from us the adults - if we know how.

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